Having confidence isn’t a finish line you cross once, it is an ever-going process of your life. There will be days when you feel like you are back to square one. Or days when the confident train you are driving is just not moving forward because it co-exists with other people’s judgments. It is a very tricky little thing. Not every woman is able to recognise the talents and good qualities about themselves. Some just fail terribly in doing that.
For this reason, this guide is here to help you build inner confidence day by day and help you clear all the self-confidence hurdles you are struggling with. One thing to note, being confident is really all about your choice and ability to tune yourself to vibrate on the frequencies you desire and set yourself up with more positive energy using food, motions, experiences and self-perception. Ready to start? Remember, sky’s the limit and you have potential within you to reach higher.
#1 – Food
Instead of crackers, chips, or pretzels, you might want to pick up foods like spinach, broccoli, meat, and whole grains next time you visit your local supermarket. A study shows that there are basically two types of foods; living foods and dead foods. One gives us energy while one depletes our energy. And it further suggests a link between how these living foods can boost your energy levels, and in turn, your self-confidence.
Don’t believe it? Ask yourself what happened the last time you had a bag of candies or a can of sugary soda. Did you feel a decrease in energy levels right after? Well that’s because sugary drinks, candy, and pastries put too much fuel into your blood too quickly. The ensuing crash leaves you tired and hungry again. On the other hand, complex carbs, healthy fats, and protein take longer to digest, and can satisfy your hunger, and provide a slow, steady stream of energy.
A simple glass of beer is a good way to replace sugary sodas and soft drinks that can spike and then crash your energy levels. A beer makes you feel more relaxed and boosts your energy, which can help keep you energised and confident. If you ever get bored of the same plain beer, try indulging in a new flavour at Arvo. Arvo’s mission is to bring you the best independent Australian craft beer, never before available in Singapore, so you can experience new flavours and create new memories with your mates. It’s where many of us get our after-work jolt – just don’t overdo it.
#2 – Motion
Many of us would have agreed that how you carry yourself communicates a lot to other people. This is because your motion determines your emotion. And your emotion determines your energy. A study suggests that the positioning of your body cues your mind to feel a certain way (like confident, energetic, stressed, etc), so positioning yourself confidently will make you genuinely feel in charge.
Instead of keeping your hands in your pocket, bring your arms by your side, keep your shoulders back, your spine straight, and your head held high. If you’re worried your shoulders are slouched, or you drag your feet when you walk, pay attention to these more and learn to improve your posture and motions gradually. Remember, self-awareness is key in this area. Simply applying this will not only make you look more confident on the outside, but you will also be more likely to be empowered to make changes and to identify areas where you would like to make improvements.
#3 – Experiences
Notice the moment when you stop believing in yourself? This is the moment when you keep track of the bad, negative experiences and catch yourself having an inner dialogue that doubts yourself. In fact, this ‘inner dialogue’ is quite simply your thoughts. It is the little voice in your head that comments on your past failures and you cling on them pretty much consciously or subconsciously.
If you keep track of the bad experiences, you will soon notice that they keep you from your current reality and hinder your self-confidence. Just try to ignore these thoughts and make the choice to live in the present. Concentrate on what’s in front of you and take time to try out new things that will open up new experiences for you. You can embrace a new interest, talk to strangers, join a social club, and expect success along the way. Sometimes the only way out is through. In order to get good at life, you’ve got to encounter enough experiences to make you grow more confident.
#4 – Self-perception
Grasp the fact that how you see yourself is everything. Read that one more time. How you see yourself is everything. In order to be happy, one must be inspired to feel happy. If we want to spread motivation, one must be inspired to be motivated. In other words, you must see yourself as someone who’s confident if you want to be one.
The world and reality we live in is merely a reflection of the energy that we are inside. Our bodies are vessels and the soul energy inside is our guiding light. No matter how down you feel, try to pat yourself on the back and focus on your better attributes that will distract you from perceived flaws and boost your self-perception. It’s all about being confident with who you are and who you are becoming.